Why do we find it hard to say no? It might come from our predetermined beliefs from our past and people-pleasing tendencies. Do we want to be liked or seen as a kind person?
If we start to over-commit to yes, this can eventually become detrimental. It can, in turn, become the opposite; we miss deadlines, pull out of commitments at the last minute, and struggle to find time for ourselves. So if we learn how to say no in the first place and prioritise our time and ourselves, life and relationships become more manageable in the long run.
One of the best strategies for saying no... and that's not even to say no, it's really to answer what you genuinely want to say, instead of just agreeing, is to bide yourself some time.
So if someone asks you to stay back after work, go out for dinner, whatever it is, and you're not sure if you want to do it, instead of coming across as wishy-washy and unclear, why don't you say to them something as simple as this?
"I'll just check my diary, and I'll get back to you."
"I'll just check my calendar, and I'll get back to you."
"Let me think about that."
"I'll give you a response in a moment."
"Thanks for asking me."
"No, but thanks for thinking of me."
When you say it in a friendly and transparent way, it doesn't come across as wishy-washy or flaky or that you don't want to do it. You just become apparent in your boundaries. So, working on two or three little vital sentences that you can incorporate into your life can help you set up your limits so that you can learn to leverage from the power of the word "No".
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